Headin' for the Frisco Bay

I recognize it’s been a while and I apologize for the lack of juicy dating tales for the five of you that actually read this…okay, four. Five might be a bit of a stretch.

The last year or so has been a bit of a learning curve for me, both on a professional level as well as a personal level. It’s been a while since my last date and I had enough on my plate for a while there to even have time or energy to think about it. I have to say it’s a good place I’ve landed in. It’s refreshing not to think about what the next date will be like or if the guy is out there or if maybe if you just give it ONE more shot it’ll be the shot that sticks. It can be exhausting and if you’re not careful consume more of your life than you ever intended it to. For a while there I was afraid I was becoming the poor man’s version of Jennifer Aniston—perpetually single and everyone wondering “why can’t she just find a nice guy”.

I’ve regrouped, and put the focus back on me—what I want to do with my life, my career, what my goals are outside of finding a soul mate and I have to say it’s paid off, at least it feels that way. I decided to turn my passions into professional goals and began studying wine and even took a part time job at an Italian wine bar in Providence. I stopped wishing I had someone fun to go with for nice dinners out and realized that someone fun could be just me sometimes, with a good book, at the bar enjoying a delicious meal and a glass of wine. If I wanted to go for a run, I did…if I felt like walking instead, I did that. I started living completely by my own rules without a hint of an outside influence. Let’s be honest here, for those that know me, I’ve never been afraid of much and have always been independent. But this felt a little different, a little more balanced maybe, or just peaceful.

You see while my tales of dating woe were a source of entertainment for all, and who can argue that, it didn’t necessarily fulfill me when all was said and done. To continually focus on what’s missing (or who) in your life tends to result in an internal void that can be very unsettling. That’s not to say I regret the whole experience, parts of it were fun, funny and I certainly learned a lot. Besides the obvious point that if I hadn’t have gone through that phase in my life I wouldn’t have arrived at the next one.

I know you’re probably wondering if this means I’ve given up on finding love and you’ll be happy know that that’s not the case. I believe in love and I believe it’s out there and that it comes in due time. But I believe in the fact that I want true love, and I also believe very much in myself…in being a girl that doesn’t need someone just to have someone, in knowing that good enough just isn’t good enough, and in knowing that whether or not love ever arrives, I’m in a place that’s secure and happy and peaceful all by myself. As one of my favorite lines from one of my favorite 80s movies goes "I'd rather be alone for the right reasons...then with someone for the wrong". Suffice to say I’m proud of me, and I hope you are too.

So that leads us to present day and me sitting on a Boeing 747 en route to San Francisco typing out this newest blog. My professional learning curve lead me right back to what I consider the true beginning of my career with my first company. I have been tasked with some initiatives that will require me to be in our west coast office until December, with another long term trip scheduled to our office in Sao Paulo, Brazil starting in January. I guess I don’t have to state the obvious and tell you that these upcoming adventures are sure to result in some good stories whether it’s dating or hanging off of a cliff in the Amazon to avoid being eaten by piranha (there might not be that big of a difference between the two now that I think of it).

As my life has changed shape it makes sense that this blog and the stories in it will as well. I promise to keep it entertaining and just as enticing for anyone who cares to check in on my latest ventures.

That being said, goodbye east coast for now…hello west coast!!

Stay tuned…

Tricia