You Don't Have To Go Home But You Can't Stay Here!

First off let me apologize for the overextended holiday break I gave myself from writing. Assuming some of you actually enjoy reading my blog I know it’s been quite some time since I last wrote.

Another thing I have definitely learned at this point in my online dating journey is that it’s best to get the meeting done as quickly as possible. Pull the trigger if you will. If you spend too much time emailing and talking before you actually meet it just makes for more disappointment if there’s no physical chemistry. And yes, it’s possible to communicate with someone and find them pleasant, funny, intelligent…all of the things you would want the person you date to be. But physical can’t be ignored and it’s either there or it’s not.

This particular gentleman I applied that rule to. We started emailing on a Thursday and met on a Friday. I really liked his approach to how he wrote his profile. He laid the whole thing out as what his family and friends said about him. It was different and clever…I mean after all if your family and your friends don’t know you who does?

Unfortunately a clever profile does not a physical match make. I knew when I pulled into the parking lot to meet him there was no attraction on my part. But we’ve been down that road before so of course I made the most of my four beers’ time with him and had an enjoyable couple of hours with a guy I knew I would never go out with again.

The bad part came at the end of the night when we were leaving. I prepared to go with the polite “nice to meet you” goodbye while he clearly had a different idea. Yup…he went right in for the kiss. I can say there’s nothing…I repeat, nothing…worse than being faced with kissing someone you are absolutely not attracted to.I did the best I could to effectively dodge it and keep what I was sure would be his embarrassment to a minimum. Apparently some don’t embarrass very easily because even after that he asked if we really had to end the night and was I not up to go somewhere else for another drink? The rest of the conversation went a little something like this:

Me: “Noooo…no I don’t think so. I have to get up early tomorrow and you have to drive all the way home…”
Him: “Do I?”
Me: “Uuuummm yes, yes you do.”
Him: “Are you sure?”
Me: “I’m fairly certain yes…yes you have to go home.”

I don’t know what was more unbelievable. The fact that he asked the question in the first place when there was zero indication of anything heading there in the first place OR if he felt the need to actually pose a follow up question. Did he think I would actually reconsider and change my mind? “Oh you know…you’re right, I don’t know what I was thinking, come on back.”
I’m not sure what nickname to give this one…if any of you have any good ideas feel free to put your two cents in.